Advice For When You're Coming Out

What Does Coming Out Mean?

We use the phrase coming out when we want to tell others something about us that isn't simply obvious. When we talk about coming out in regards to LGBTQ+ people it's a way for us to tell people about our sexual orientation and/or gender identity. The subject of coming out can be very different for everyone and can take some people a lot longer than others to feel comfortable and confident in sharing this part of themselves with others around them.


How To Come Out?

There's no right or wrong way to come out to the people around you, as long as you are the one making the decision yourself. If you are thinking of coming out, it's important to make sure you do it in a way that you feel comfortable in doing, it doesn't need to be a big show with fireworks and light displays.... but then if you want to do it that way that's also great too!


Why Should You Come Out?

Most people just want to stop hiding a part of themselves from the world, and want to show everyone who they really are, especially with the people they love. Hiding who you are can be a problem for your mental and physical health, using so much energy on showing everyone someone you think you should be can be a real drain and get in the way of things like your love life, job or education.

Just because someone wants to come out to their family and/or friends, that doesn't mean they are ready to let everyone know about themselves. It's actually pretty common for someone to come out to certain areas of their lives at a time. I myself, was out to my friends long before I ever mentioned it to a single family member. 

Who Should You Tell?

Ideally you will want to start off by finding someone who you trust and are confident in that they will be supportive of you. It isn't very likely that you will be able to gather everyone you want to tell in one room, unless you wanted to hold a coming out party that is, so you will probably have to have the talk a few times with different people. 

With social media sites such as Twitter, Facebook and Instagram being such a big part of modern life it can be difficult to keep news like coming out manageable and private. If you have someone in mind who you definitely don't want to know about your coming out make sure you think carefully about how you can try to manage this as news can reach people far and wide even when we don't want it to. 


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